5 Minutes for the Next 50 Years of Your Life
I'm going to talk to you about some things that I've learned in my journey ... most from experience, some of them I've heard in passing, many of them I'm still practicing but all of them I do believe are true.
Life is not easy, it's not. Don't try to make it that way. Life is not fair, it never was. It's not now and it won't ever be. Do not fall into the trap. The entitlement trap; of feeling like you are a victim. You are not. Get over it and get on with it. So the question that we've got to ask ourselves is what success is to us, what success is to you? Is it more money? That's fine, I've got nothing against money. May be it's a healthy family. May be it's a happy marriage. May be it's to help others. To be famous. To be spiritually sound. To leave the world a little bit of a better place than you found it. Continue to ask yourself that question. Now, your answer may change over time and that's fine. But do yourself this favor. Whatever your answer is, don't choose anything that will jeopardize your soul. Prioritize who you are, who you want to be and don't spend time with anything that antagonizes your character. Be brave, take the hill but first answer that question, "What's my Hill?" So First .. We have to define success for ourselves and then we have to put in the work to maintain it. Make that daily tally, tend to our garden. Keep the things that are important to us in good shape. Where you are not is as important as where you are. It is just as important where we are not as it is where we are. Look the first step that leads to our identity in life. Is usually not, "I know, who I'm." "I know, who I'm." Is not the first step. The first step is usually, "I know, who I'm not." Process of elimination. Defining ourselves by what we are not, is the first step that leads us to really knowing who we are. You know that group of friends that you hang out with, that really might not bring out the best in you? You know ... they gossip too much or they are kind of shady. .. They really are not going to be there for you in a pinch, or how about that meeting place that we keep going to that we always seem to have the worst hangover from?
Or that computer screen! That computer screen that keep giving us an excuse not to get out of the house and engage with the world and get some real human interaction? Or how about that food that we keep eating that stuff that tastes so good going down, but makes us feel like crap the next week when we feel lethargic ( having little energy; feeling unwilling and unable to do anything) and we keep putting on weight?
Well .. those people, those places, those things, ... Stop giving them your time and energy! Just don't go there! I mean, put them down! and when you do this, when you put them down, when you quit going there, when you quit giving them your time, you inadvertently (without intention) find yourself spending more time and in more places that are healthy for you, that bring you more joy. Why? Because you have just eliminated the whos, the wheres, the whats and the whens, that were keeping you from your identity.
Trust me .. too many options ... I promise you.. too many options will make a tyrant of us all. So get the rid off the excess; waste of the time, decrease your options and if you do this, you will have accidentally, almost innocently, put in front of you. What is important to you by process of elimination.
Knowing, who we are, is hard? It's hard. So give yourself break. Eliminate who you you are not first and you are going to find yourself where you need to be. Instead of creating outcomes that take from us, let's create more outcomes that pay us back. Feel us up. Keep your fire lit, turn you on. For the most amount of time in your future. We try our best. We don't always do our best. Our architecture is a verb (a word or phrase that describes an action, condition, or experience) as well and since we are the architects of our own lives. let's study the habits, the practices, the routines that we have that leads to and feed our success, our joy, our honest pain, our laughter, our earned tears. Let's dissect that and give thanks for those things. And when we do that, guess what happens? We get better at them! and we have more to dissect. Be discerning (having or showing good judgment), choose it because you want it. Do it because you want to. We're going to make mistakes, we've got to own them. Then we've got to make amends and then you've got to move on.
Guilt and regret kills many a man before their time. So turn the page. Get off the ride. You are the author of book of your life.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OKJImnk-gzQ
Khudi Ki Mout Se Hindi Shikasta Balon Par
Qafas Huwa Hai Hilal Aur Ashiyana Haraam!
The self of Indians is extinct, By pinions cleft is made distinct. For they are pleased with prison life, To break the bars they wage no strife!
Imam Ali (AS): "Whoever has identified his self in reality has recognized his Creator."
When someone is mean, don’t listen. When someone is rude, walk away. When someone tries to put you down, stay firm. Don’t let someone else’s bad behavior destroy your inner peace.