Body and Exercise
I'll give you an example. Look at your physical body. Your physical body, today, is an absolute reflection of only one thing. Not your goals, not your desires, but your standards, the identity you have for yourself. If your standard is; you're an athlete, then there's a certain amount of strength, a muscle tone, an energy; that's available in your body, on a regular basis, because that's who you are. You do whatever is necessary to maintain that identity.
Again, the strongest force in the human personality is this need to stay consistent with how we define ourselves because if you don't know who you are, you wouldn't know how to act.
Once you lock in on that identity, your brain finds a way to keep you there. If you say, "Man, I'm overweight. I've always been overweight. I'm big-boned" and that's the story you've got, then you're going to always find a way to get back there. That's your settling point. That's your identity. That's where things lock in.
If you see somebody who's in really great shape, you ask them, "Do you work out?" You know the answer, "Yes." "How often?" They'll tell you, "Three times," "Four times," "Five times a week," whatever. In a seminar, I'll ask people, "Who, here, works out at least five days a week? Stand up." You look around that room, and you know that they work out five times a week because you can see their body. You don't just get a result without some kind of action, without some form of ritual; "ritual," meaning actions you do consistently.
Day is Same 24 Hour, Must List Makes the Difference
Now, do you believe those people that are out there, working out five days a week, do they have more time than you do or I have or anybody else? Of course not. Is their life less busy? Of course not. It's just a "must" for them. They must work out that way. They've made that turn, and their life changed. I'm not saying you have to work out five days a week. I'm just saying, whatever you really want, "wants" don't get met consistently; "standards" do. Whatever you identify, "This is who I am."
It's not so much about changing your identity, as it is expanding it; deciding that, instead of your goal is to lose 10 pounds, which is not compelling, what if your vision was to "get back to my fighting weight"? "This year," "This month," "This next 90 days, I'm going to transform my body. I'm going to take on a new challenge. I'm going to find some technique or strategy. There's a million of them that can re-frame myself." Or, "I want to feel younger, stronger, more vibrant than ever before. Here are my reasons. I want the energy to really make my life work because it's tough out there, and I want to be stronger than I've ever been before. I want to go in front of the mirror, and if I'm naked, not want to laugh. I want to look there and take a good look, and go, 'Yeah. I'm proud of whatever I see there.'" Whatever it takes. Something is going to make you laugh, smile. Something is going to tease yourself, but something is going to move you to another level. If you identify yourself in a new way, you own that every day and that becomes the standard of how you live, you'll find a way to make that standard real.
Aayen-e-Nau Se Darna, Tarz-e-Kuhan Pe Urna
Manzil Yehi Kathan Hai Qoumon Ki Zindagi Mein
To be afraid of the new ways, to insist on the old ones
This is the only difficult stage in the life of nations

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