Sorry Vs Forgiveness
“It takes a strong person to say sorry, and an ever stronger person to forgive.”
Forgiveness is an eleven letter word; but a famous writer says; Forgiveness is a four letter word 'Love'. It's human nature that we feel angry and resentful when someone harm us. Forgiveness is forgetting the past and starting on a clean street.
Forgiveness is: taking the knife out of your own back and not using it to hurt anyone else no matter how they hurt you.
Forgiveness has two aspects; 1) Why can't some people forgive; three reasons not to forgive; a) we think that we will not get apology, we think that others will not forgive. [Joke; If a man says sorry when he knows that it's his mistake. Yes, I'm wrong then he is wise, he is honest. If a man says sorry when he knows that other person is wrong then he is a husband.] We always expect that people come and say sorry to us. People have different versions of forgiveness. If forgiveness was dependent on the apology of a particular person then whole world had been burned down. b) Some people lack the ingredients of forgiveness. [Story; Turtle who agrees to carry a scorpion across a river learns a fatal lesson about innate nature. Some people refer a pious person instead of turtle and a very impressive statement from the pious person. A small scorpion is not leaving its character of biting. I'm not supposed to compromise my helping character]. The pious person had ingredient of forgiveness, love and compassion in him. We cannot love until and unless we forgive a person. c) We don't understand the difference between weakness and wickedness. If a person hurts you; he/she might be weak not wicked. We all human being have weaknesses. We all are capable of hurting someone. When we are so eager to receive forgiveness by someone; why are not we willing to give forgiveness to someone. What can we do if someone hurts a girl, a woman, kills thousands of people. Should we report the police; that's not forgiveness. Complaining to police is against his particular action, not against him. If police does something in your favor, it's like applying medicine on your wound. Wound never disappear until and unless you forgive, the wound will still remain. 2) the power of forgiveness. Three aspects; a) You live the happy and healthy life. You are healing yourself; your body, your soul. b) the second power you gain; when you forgive someone, you are coming out of their control, you stop being their victim. When your are insulted or rejected; you have two choices; either you stay and continue to feel hurt, anger and feeling depressed or you come out of the situation and stop being victim of what they did. When you come out of the situation, you gain confidence, you re-empower yourself. c) When you forgive someone, you come out of the emotions of anger, depression and sadness. 13 year old orphan was in an orphanage. He was an autistic patient. He didn't could see and speak well. He taught 4-5 lessons to change the life of a person who is very successful in life. a) He told, he was abandoned by his mother. He was thrown in a dustbin without knowing what mistake he made. But according to him when he came to know all about, he forgave his mother and living happy life. Keeping in view this orphan's story, we all may be not physically fit. We lack sometimes brain, sometimes heart. This autistic patient orphan has both in good condition. Rani Maria near Indore in 1995, by stabbing her more than 50 times. Her mother forgive the killer who killed her with bad injuries and without any reason. We all as a human being have insults, hurts, grudges in life; just forgive all those who were responsible for anything. Not because they deserve your forgiveness, not because you were asked for their forgiveness but because you cannot move on without forgiving a person. It shows your maturity level. Your forgiveness speaks about you, not about them. Forgiveness is your gift towards yourself from yourself. You have to just search within. To deal with people who tend to exploit the quality of forgiveness in someone; quote; a verse of Bible; “Behold, I send you out as sheep in the midst of wolves. Therefore be wise as serpents and harmless as doves.” If one repeats mistake then the response would be accordingly. [Autistic Spectrum Disorder (ASD) is a complex developmental condition that includes a range of possible developmental impairments in reciprocal social interaction and communication, and also a stereotyped, repetitive or limited behavioral repertoire (amateur dramatics)]

Al-Imran (The Family of Imran) 3:134
الَّذِينَ يُنفِقُونَ فِي السَّرَّاء وَالضَّرَّاء وَالْكَاظِمِينَ الْغَيْظَ وَالْعَافِينَ عَنِ النَّاسِ وَاللّهُ يُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِينَ

who spend [in His way] in time of plenty and in time of hardship, and hold in check their anger, and pardon their fellow-men because God loves the doers of good.

Al-Quran (Pardon)

Imam al-Sadiq (AS) said, 'Anger is such that it destroys the heart of even the wise man. He who has no control over his anger has no control over his mind.' Imam Muhammad al-Baqir (AS) said: 'Indeed, this anger is a smoldering (burning with little smoke and no flame) ember (a small, glowing piece of coal or wood, as in a dying fire) that Satan kindles in the heart of the son of Adam’

Mary Johnson and Oshea Israel (USA) - Forgiveness Project

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